Module 8: Interactions and Guidance

Module 8 Discussion Question: Behavior Management

3/6/2015

Chase is a third grade boy in your program who has difficulty controlling his impulses. One day during outdoor play, he is excluded from a game of basketball and begins yelling angrily at everyone around him. He is hysterical. What do you do?

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199 Comments

Miranda Jones

4/27/2015 05:20:03 am

The first thing to do is separate Chase from the situation. If he is angry and hysterical, this is not a good thing. He needs to come inside and talk to an adult or sit quietly and think about why he is angry and what he should do next time he feels that way.

Ann Zop

4/27/2015 05:21:59 am

It sounds to me like Chase has some impulse control issues. If he is angry enough to become hysterical, I worry that he may start hitting or kicking next. He needs to work with an adult on his impulse control habits.

antionette griffin

9/25/2015 01:23:52 pm

I advise you to begin putting him in time out for a couples minutes, and then when the times done, ask him why he was sent to timeout.

Drew

5/11/2015 12:30:37 am

I would first create a safe space for him to go, and keep a very close eye on him to make sure that yelling is the only thing he is doing if he starts to get physical I would the step in. But when he is yelling I would ask him if he wants to talk to see if we can get him back into the game or if we could find some thing else for him to do. If I cant get him to calm down by talking to him I wouldn't push I would let time pass. and then try again.

Kaitlyn

6/11/2015 03:12:52 am

I would separate chase for the situation and let him cool down in the room alone and go back and check on him and explain those words hurt other people and tell him positive things that he's a great kid. Then get him some help for his impulse problems

Brett Turner

6/11/2015 04:10:07 am

I would separate Chase from the rest of the class and give him some down time to think about his actions. I would also keep a closer eye on him and make sure he doesn't physically hurt someone playing around him during future events.

Jessica Enebo

6/13/2015 03:37:07 am

First I would separate Chase from the situation and let him calm down for a bit. Once he was calm we would sit down to talk over the problem. Once he explained what the problem was we would think about alternate solutions and let him go back to the group and try again.

cindy

6/13/2015 09:27:55 am

I would ask him to sit down and calms down for a second and keep a close eye on him. If he does not listen, i would go over and start talking with him softly and explained why he needs to calm down and listen.

Ruth W.

6/21/2015 09:03:32 am

I would enter into the situation and seperate Chase from the group and ask him to calm down and let him know that I will come over and talk to him when he is ready. While Chase is calming down I will go over to the other kids act what happened and ask them to continue to play and focus on that. Once Chase is calm I would walk over and sit next to him and talk with him about what happened and how the situation can be change for the next time.

Serena

6/28/2015 01:18:16 pm

First, I would ask another adult to supervise the game. Then I would guide Chase away to a secluded area and stay with him until he calmed down. Then I would talk calmly with him about his behavior and what he could do differently next time, and afterwords we might play a couple games together until I felt he was ready to rejoin the group.

Kathryn Mills

7/3/2015 08:00:36 am

I would try to calmly separate Chase from the rest of the group. If he continued to be out of control and unwillingly to listen I would ask the other children to take a break from the activity for a few minutes. I would let Chase continue to get out his emotions before stepping in to talk with him. Once he has settled down we would discuss what happened. First I would ask what caused him to get upset. Then discuss different ways he thinks he could handle himself when he gets like that. We could discuss a few different options and decide together what is best. That way the next time it happens he knows exactly what he is supposed to do. Then I would call the other children back, if he was ready to join in and have him talk to the kids about what happened and why he got upset. I would have him ask them if it was ok if they played together again.

Mallery Luke

7/6/2015 01:12:27 pm

The first thing I would do is separate Chase from the other children. I would tell Chase to sit and calm down, encouraging him to take some deep breaths. Then I would proceed to ask him why he is so upset. I would explain to him that it is okay he is angry, but it is not okay that he is yelling at all of our other friends. Then I would discuss with him different ways that he can handle a similar situation in the future. I would ask him open ended questions such as, "What could you do if this happened again?" and have him think of ideas that would be more appropriate. Then I would proceed to the other children and ask them why they were excluding Chase. I would explain to them that everyone needs to be included and to treat each other the way you want to be treated.

Edith Stillwell

7/29/2016 08:54:18 am

This is what I would also do. Chase needs a "time out" from the situation and redirected. Having him think of other things he could do in this situation helps him to problem solve. Also talking with the others about exclusion shows him that you care about hi and his feelings, and shows the others how the exclusion made Chase feel, and redirects them . I say that we are all friends in our class, and that we all have to work together to get along, interact, play, and work together as a team.

Jeremy

7/19/2015 01:06:04 pm

I would ask another adult to supervise the game. So that I could take Chase away from the environment that we were in during the game. Then I would talk calmly with him about his behavior and what he could do differently next time, and afterwords we might play a couple games together until I felt he was ready to rejoin the group.

Shawna Calvert

7/20/2015 01:16:42 pm

You try to de-escalate the situation by talking about his favorite color or his favorite food or the character on his shirt.. don't worry about the problem at hand right at the moment.. otherwise you may escalate the situation and make it much worse.

yvonne

7/26/2015 04:53:44 am

I would remove chase from the game of basketball for a moment, and ask him what is going on and if he is angry about something that we need to talk about, maybe you should sit out for a bit to relax and watch how the other kids are playing, once he is calm downed let him rejoin the game if it does continue then he will be excluded from playing basketball the rest of the day.

Delia Farrell

7/29/2015 04:23:50 am

First I would have another adult watch the children outside, while i take Chase inside to cool down, once he has cooled down I would talk to him about his behavior and how he could of handled it differently. Help guide him and show him the right way. Once I felt he was ready to go back out and play I would observe him and see what he learned.

Teraza

7/29/2015 11:31:18 am

But when he is yelling I would ask him if he wants to talk to see if we can get him back into the game or if we could find some thing else for him to do. If I cant get him to calm down by talking to him I wouldn't push I would let time pass. and then try again.

Victoria A Weaver

8/1/2015 08:41:33 am

I would ask Chase to come with me somewhere away from the other children so we can talk. Once he has sat down and calmed himself a bit, I would ask him to use his words to tell me what he is feeling and why he is feeling upset. I would listen and explain that he is allowed to feel upset, but that shouting at his friends is not. If he is calm and understands the situation, I would help him get back into the game of basketball. I would also tell the basketball players that excluding people in unacceptable too.

Taylor thames

8/2/2015 11:58:15 am

Stop the game and create a new position for each child and insert everyone in the game.

karlee

8/3/2015 01:00:17 pm

I would take chase away from the group so that he cant harm them, I would discuss the issue with him, and figure out what to do next and make sure he is included in the game. but I would also remind him that if he yells at people like that they will be scared and maybe wont want to play with him next time. if I couldn't calm him down by talking to him. I would have another teacher come and grab him and take him somewhere else to calm down and then re introduce the rules and the conversation to him.

Saida C.

8/4/2015 11:46:44 am

I would ask Chase to follow me to a nearby bench and let him know that I will give him some space to calm down and in a few minutes I will come and talk to him. When he is calm I will approach him and ask him to explain to me how he was feeling and give him some alternatives on how the situation can be handled next time. It may be necessary to discuss these impulses with his parents so that they are aware of his behavior incase they are not seeing it at home.

Juliana Davis-Marxer

8/13/2015 04:26:28 am

In this situation I would make sure to move Chase to a calmer place away from the other children so he could take some deep breaths. I would then ask him what made him so angry and why he thinks he was being excluded. I would explain to chase that I understand he is angry and that it's OK to be angry but he can't scream and yell at his friends. I would try to give Chase some alternatives to screaming when he's upset like, tearing up paper or squeezing a stress ball as hard as he can. If Chase wanted to continue playing basketball after he calmed down I would take him over to the group and help them restart the game in a fun friendly way.

Elise

8/22/2015 06:05:07 am

In this situation I would separate the child from the situation. I would have him go to a different area so that he could calm down and then talk with him about why he is upset and what we could do to solve the problem. I would then suggest that maybe they could take turns or suggest finding other people to play a new game with.

Emily

8/24/2015 03:46:07 am

i would first ask another adult to watch the game so i could make sure chase and i had some one on one time so he could explain in his words what was upsetting him and together we could figure out a solution to the problem.

Elena

8/25/2015 03:56:45 pm

You can redirect him and remove him from the situation so he can calm his body down away from what was upsetting him. Then have a conversation about what made him so upset, how he felt before, during, and after the situation and what he can can do next time to prevent from becoming hysterical.

Alicia Dickson

8/26/2015 03:19:57 am

I would ask Chase to remove himself from the area, and express to him that I know he is angry but it's not okay to be yelling at everyone right now. After having him calm down, I would talk to him about that I know it hurts and makes you angry but we can't yell at them. I then would come up with a different game for him to play and asks other kids to get involve.

kiera moore link

8/28/2015 05:29:56 am

I would ask Chase to please follow me so we can remove him from the scene and allow him to react differently where the other children would not be able to see his behavior. Once he was able to control himself I would explain to him why he was asked to remove himself from the game and that we can try again later.

Mandy Taylor

8/30/2015 01:16:48 pm

I would calmly try and remove him away from kids , once he is calm I would try and find out what happened. At this time e making sure he is remaining calm. Talk to him about how we should handle things when we get angry.at the end I would help or play another game.

Brooke P.

9/4/2015 05:48:48 pm

First you need to seperate him from the issue. Making sure none of his peers sees how the situation is being handled is important so it doesnt make Chase feel down on himself. Then ask him to take some deep breaths and try to calm himself. After he does that, ask him what happened. Make sure he tries to stay calm. After that, handle the incident carefully. Make sure you talk to others who were being mean and make sure they all know that it isnt acceptable to be so mean to each other.

Madison

9/5/2015 08:53:52 pm

I would immediately gravitate towards him. I would take him aside and ask him to calm down and tell me why he has been excluded from the game. If it was a conflict with a student I would get them involved as well to see if there could be a way to compromise, and if there isn't a way then I would redirect them into a different activity.

maricella link

9/7/2015 07:50:19 pm

I would look for an area where it would be safe for chase to calm down and ask him to meet me in that area so we can talk about what is upsetting him. Then ask him if he were to get self control then he can come back and play with classmates .

Zachary Scott

9/14/2015 10:42:09 am

I would take him from the situation to the side and then calm him down and discuss what was going on. Then I would talk to the group of children about how excluding people is wrong. After making sure that both parties understand what things they need to change about how they acted I would then integrate Chase into the game.

Leah L'Rae Wonders

9/15/2015 07:53:15 pm

I would separate him from the others by going up to them and telling the rest of the boys to continue playing. I'd have Chase come and walk or sit by me and I ask him about his behavior. I'd ask him why he was upset and angry, what he thinks the appropriate behavior would be for telling the boys that he does not find their exclusion acceptable. I'd have him sit with me a few minutes afterward and talk to him about what other children are doing and mention that it looks like fun and to join in on one of their games but that he needs to ask nicely and if he feels he may be getting overwhelmed with his emotions (like angry or upset) to come stand next to me or to find a spot away from people to sit for a while. I'd talk to him about how we need to be responsible for our actions and caring with our words and how to properly express those to others.

Michael Eng

9/23/2015 02:18:36 pm

I would separate him from the other students in case he harms someone else. I will give him some time to cool off, but still keep a close eye on him. I will talk to him about how to resolve this situation in a healthy manner and try to incorporate this resolution with him and possibly the group that it effected.

Elizabeth T Mason

9/23/2015 06:53:52 pm

Seperate him from the group until he is calm, then ask what the problem is. Take him to the group and tell the group to involve everyone equally.

Olivia Margoshes

9/26/2015 09:41:57 am

I would immediately invite him to come sit on a bench away from the situation and let him have some time alone to calm down. I would then ask him to explain his emotions to me calmly. I would say that I understand how he is feeling and that it must not feel good to be excluded, but that it is not okay to react to the situation the way he did. Together we could brainstorm other ways he could have reacted, so that the next time it happened he would have more tools to deal with the situation.

Emily

9/26/2015 12:37:48 pm

I would want to separate Chase from the rest of the group to give him time and space to calm down. It would be important that a staff member stays near him to at least monitor, and help him relax if they are able. Once he had calmed down I, or another staff, would talk to him and help him process his emotions and actions and the outcome they produced.

Robert Lee

9/26/2015 02:28:33 pm

I would first separate him from the rest of the group. Then i would wait for him to calm down and ask him whats wrong. I would then help him come up with ideas of other ways he could have reacted better.

Andre Graham

9/30/2015 01:33:28 pm

The first thing I would do is immediately and calmly walk up to Chase, kneel down to his eye level and ask him "whats wrong?" I would calmly ask him to stop yelling and ask him to come inside with me to talk about the situation. After he has calmed down and had a chance to explain himself I would offer some suggestions for Chase use the next time he feels himself getting angry. Those suggestions would be things like: taking a deep breath, talking to an adult if he feels something was unfair, having a second and third option for something fun to do in is head if for some reason option 1 did not work.

Dillon Kramer

10/1/2015 06:48:52 pm

I would separate him from the group and have him take deep breaths with me to calm him enough to talk to him about the situation and then maybe suggest that he plays basketball with me or trys to play with the group again. I would also talk to the group about excluding nd how they need to include him in the game because he wants to get better

Ashleigh

10/4/2015 02:20:53 pm

Ask him whats wrong, if he doesnt respond a "time-out" would be put in place. After a few minutes of him having time to calm down I would return to him and have him explain the situation to me and make sure he knows why he was sent into "time-out" If this continues I would inform his parents of the situation.

Katie Cook

10/6/2015 02:32:59 pm

I would kindly ask Chase to sit down by me. Ask him to calm down, stop yelling. Talk to him saying " Just cool down please. Once you do that ,we can talk about the issue." wait a few minutes, he tells me what's wrong I say " okay well I will talk to the other students to include you in the game. But next this happens I don't want you to just start yelling at them, come to me ."

Claudia martinez

10/7/2015 10:59:06 pm

I would first make sure that we have a staff member that could watch over the kids and then remove the child from that setting. I would ask him if he was ok and what is wrong. Then tell him to take a deep breath that its ok to feel angry or upset but we need to calm down. My next steps would all depend on how he reacts to the questions are you ok .....i would make sure to talk to him about different ways he could handle it if this ever happened again but i would also talk to the kids about including everyone.

Sherry

10/8/2015 08:23:35 am

I would find a quite place and have Chase sit down. When he is calm I would ask him why is so upset. I would let him know that there are better ways of handling the situation. That when he is calm and if there is time left that he may go back to the game. I would also talk to the group playing and ask why they wouldn't let Chase play. If the teams were even I would have them rotate out so that everyone has a chance to play

Meghan

10/22/2015 11:51:23 am

As much as I would love to be able to ask him to come to the side with me to talk, if he is hysterical he probably wouldn't-so I would ask the other children to give us some space-play elsewhere so I could have one-on-one time with him. I would them try talking to him calmly to also calm him down to a reasonable level for being upset, and help him to problem solve. Once he was calm enough I would see if he wanted to come with me to talk to the other kids and help them all problem solve together to find a solution that doesn't upset anyone. Give him praise and encouragement once all that happens so he sees he can still get the attention he wants if he problem solves himself and stays calm. It would be an ongoing effort with him!

maranda morton

10/24/2015 03:09:30 pm

Chase definitely needs to be removed from the situation, and the caregiver needs to help figure out what the issue is and he,p chase calm down

Robyn

10/24/2015 05:10:29 pm

I would pull him aside and ask him to tell me what happened. I would acknowledge what he told me. I would ask him to sit until he feels calm when that happens I would have him work out a better way to respond to this.

Maria Loredo

10/25/2015 05:35:47 pm

I would try my best to quickly remove Chase from the situation and ask him what had happened. I would let chase know i am aware he is upset and have him sit in a quiet area to cool down for a bit and think about what could have done differently.

Maria Loredo

10/25/2015 05:36:57 pm

I would quickly remove Chase from the situation and ask him what had happened. I would let chase know i am aware he is upset and have him sit in a quiet area to cool down for a bit and think about what could have done differently.

Amanda

10/28/2015 09:25:05 pm

I would separate chase from the group and have him sit by himself somewhere (insight) till he has calm down. After a few minutes, I would go over and talk to him about what happened and ask him how he feels. I will help Chase find another activity to do or ask him to help me with an activity. This way, he feels included in something.

Rachel Berry

11/1/2015 03:11:23 pm

First, he needs to calm down. So I would separate him from the others. Either by asking him to move or the others. I would stay with him and talk to him about what happened once he's calmed down. Give him a chance to explain why he screamed at them and what he wants. Then I'd need to give guidance about his misbehavior. If I felt he was calm and understanding of his misconduct, then I'd see about getting him back in the game if that's what he wants.

Benjamin

11/17/2015 07:16:10 pm

First, he needs to be separated from the other students so he has a chance to calm down. Then we can discuss what he did, if it got the result he wanted, and better and more respectful ways of getting what he wants. If possible, we may even be able to go back to the game and see if he can practice those new behaviors.

Amanda Phillips

11/18/2015 08:40:11 pm

I would have Chase go to a separate area away from the group, but where I can keep a close eye on him. I would let him calm down, then talk to him about how he was feeling and why. I would explain to him why that was not appropriate behavior and tell him ways he can handle it better next time, all the while letting him know how great of a kid he his, to make sure not to put him down. Then have him go back to the group to try again when he is comfortable.

Samantha

11/21/2015 02:27:24 pm

I would calmly bring Chase aside, emphasizing that he is not in trouble but I want to talk to him about his side of the story. If he needs help deescalating, I would encourage him to stomp his feet or yell into a pillow. Then when he is calm, I would talk about what happened and develop strategies for when he feels impulsively angry. Lastly, I'd regroup the game and have Chase tell everyone why he was upset and what it feels like to be excluded.

Deana

11/27/2015 03:54:13 pm

I would calmly ask Chase to come sit with me in another area so he can calm down. When he's ready to talk, I'd ask him what got him so angry. I'd be understanding and tell him I'd probably be angry at that too, but, he is not allowed to yell or hurt other children if he gets mad like that. I'd ask him what he thinks would be good to do next time he gets angry like that instead of what he chose this time. I'd agree with the good ideas like leaving that group to do something else before getting too mad, etc. I'd encourage him to have a good rest of that day and tell him he can come talk to me if he needs to. I'd then keep an eye on him as he re-enters the activities.

Lorena Martinez soto

11/28/2015 05:39:11 pm

I will go up to the chase try to calm him down have a walk with him, once calm I would ask what happen, and then try to explain to him that yelling and hurting other kids is not ok. than I would have him go up to the other group who upset him and try to fix the issue.

Dylan

11/29/2015 07:06:31 pm

I would separate the kids by telling the other kids to keep on playing. Then I would ask what was wrong and redirect him to another activity.

Kayla

11/30/2015 10:20:09 am

I would remind him that it is ok and that we need to remain calm to fix any situation. His classmates will react to him a lot nicer if he is, and to take a deep breath. Then i would tell the other kids that we do not exclude and that there needs to be room for all kids to play the game or we need to find a game that everyone can play.

McKenzie Conner

12/1/2015 09:33:55 pm

It is important for him to have a safe place to express his emotions away from other children. It is important to encourage him to voice his feelings and assure him that we're trying to help him

Kiara mccallum

12/5/2015 04:59:08 pm

I would pull chase to the side where other children are not in site and first have him relax and be calm, I would hear his side of the story and then go forward by telling him that it is ok to feel upset but to not take it out on others and explain to him that if something isn't right or if others are being mean, then to come speak with a staff member and we together can work out the problem. I would then brig chase back to the group of kids and have chase let everyone know why he was upset. We would then try the game once again.

Breaunah Jacobs

12/6/2015 06:21:52 pm

First, its most important to get Chase away from other children so that he can calm down. Then I would validate his feelings while trying to get Chase to explain what made him feel the way he's feeling. If other children's actions are the cause of his feelings I may bring individual children into the conversation to resolve the issues and then solve an issue with the entire group if needed. However, if the problem is more complex I would ask for help from a co-teacher and go through a similar process but with some assistance.

Mary Squiers

12/8/2015 09:36:32 am

I would separate Chase from the other children. After he has had a few moments to calm down, I would ask him what's wrong. I would explain and discuss with him that anger is a normal emotion, but it is not okay to be yelling at everyone. When he seems ready, I would bring him back to the group, but keep an eye on him.

Patricia

12/8/2015 02:11:27 pm

I would remove him from the activity, help him calm down, explain to him yelling isn't how we handle things. Talk about a better way to handle the situation and allow him to try again

Dassah Ortiz

12/8/2015 08:50:06 pm

I would ask him to please step away from the situation until he was calm. Talk about what's going on and advise him to speak to the other children playing to include him in the basketball game.

Rachel Davenport

12/12/2015 03:22:48 pm

I would separate the child from the situation and allow him to cool down in a safe place, then I would go and talk to him about his behavior in kind but firm ways and then I would redirect the child to a different activity.

Audrey Heeren

12/13/2015 07:54:34 pm

If there is another adult in the area, I would gently ask the child to talk privately with me. I would watch him carefully to be sure he didn't strike out physically. I would start a behavior plan if one was not already in place.

Anamaria V

12/15/2015 11:31:06 pm

I would separate chase for the situation and let him cool down for a few minutes. Once he was calm we would sit down to talk over the problem. Once he explained what the problem was we would think about another solutions and let him go back to the group and try again.

Emely

12/18/2015 01:08:11 am

I would talk to chase and tell him to take a deep breath and we can talk about what he did wrong, ask him if he wants to try out one more time without acting up, let him know this is his only chance and will be taken out of the game if it continues.

Estefania

12/18/2015 01:25:52 am

First he needs to take a break frim the group once hes ready to talk we will talk about the problem and come up with better choices and let him back in the group to try again

Stacy

12/20/2015 08:03:59 pm

I would remove him from the other children. Discuss what was making him angry. Discuss positives ways to behave and try again. Play with the children.

Gisella Santiago-Gronka

12/23/2015 11:00:20 am

I’d walk up to him and ask him to come with me to a quieter corner of the play area. Hopefully, he’d like to speak with me but if not, we’d both take a time out together for cooling down. Once he’s ready, I’d have him talk to me about what happened and how that made him feel. Once all that is out, I’d let him know that I understand why he’s angry and ask what ways he could have handled the situation instead. Once we’ve discussed those options, I’d go over to the other children to find out what happened and how they could have included him. I’d explain to everyone that we all need to be inclusive rather than exclusive and how being exclusive is hurtful to everyone. We need to do unto others as we would like to have done to us. I’d then have Chase come back and play with the children if there is time.

Amber Fitzgerald

12/26/2015 08:49:43 pm

I would separate him from the group and give him a few minutes to himself, within my sight, to calm down. Next I would see if he is ready to talk and if he is we would discuss his actions and ask him if there are any alternatives he could've chosen instead of the reaction he gave. If we find a solution I would ask him if he would like to try again.

Desiree Price

12/28/2015 05:05:10 pm

I would ask Chase to come with me and take him to a safe, comfortable place where he is away from the other children. I would wait for him to calm down, and then talk to him. I would listen to what he has to say, and I would tell him that I understand that he is upset that he cannot play with the other children, but that words hurt, sometimes more so than physically hurting someone, and tell him that yelling at the other children does not resolve his issue, and does not make them want to play with him because he is being hostile towards them. I would help him come up with solutions to his problem that would benefit everyone. I would also remind him of all of the other areas that he can play in, and that when he feels calm enough, he can join the other children again, or find another place to play in if he does not feel that he can control his impulses and anger again.

Rebecca Pedersen

12/29/2015 03:25:31 pm

Calming the child down and removing him from the situation is what I feel is the most important step to preventing a possible bad situation. Once he calmed down I would talk to him and have him express his feelings of why he did the thing he did and help discover alternatives to yelling and becoming emotional. Or tell him to find a teacher before having the situation escalate so he can find the best solution for the problem.

Katrina

12/30/2015 12:16:50 pm

I would remove Chase from the situation and wait to address him fully until he is able to calm down (I would model calming breathing). Then I would speak calmly with him about what is upsetting him and encourage him to help me come up with a solution.

Cecilia

12/31/2015 04:11:04 pm

Chase needs to be moved away from the group of other children because he is very upset and needs a safe space to calm down. If he remains with the group he may act violently or he may also become embarrassed and more upset that his peers are watching him. When Chase is away from the group, I would first use calming techniques so that he can be receptive to my guidance. I will also ask him to explain his frustration; usually knowing that their grievances are being listened to helps children with frustration. They I would encourage him to think of another solution besides an outburst, for next time. We always tell our children that if they are upset or feel excluded they should come to a teacher for help and mediation. I would also be sure to emphasize why Chase's response was not okay, not that he is bad for having poor impulse control but why it is important for him to control his body and his impulses: to keep himself and others safe.

Laura-Beth Straight

1/1/2016 08:56:52 am

Chase would need to be removed from the group for a few minutes until he could calm down. When he is calm, I would talk with him about what he was felling and ask him what other ways he could express himself and handle his feelings. We would discuss more positive expressions and then have him return to the group.

James Over

1/2/2016 01:27:44 pm

I would quietly explain to him in a soft, coaxing tone why his yelling was unacceptable. How it may be hurting other kids's feelings, and how it wasn't helping him get what he wanted, it was only making him look like a mean kid, and being mean is not appreciated by his peers.

Andrea

1/3/2016 08:51:30 pm

i would take the child and sit him down and talk to him about his reaction and give him some special time so that no one around him get hurt and let his parents know about the situation and try to get him to get help because the behavior he is showing could worsen later in the future.

Lindsay Lyon

1/4/2016 08:01:18 pm

I would ask Chase to step out of the game and come with me. I would acknowledge his anger and then let him know that it is inappropriate to react like he did in the situation. I would have him sit out and cool off until he was ready to receive guidance from me on what he did wrong and what he could do to react better in the situation. I would wait until he was behaving rationally before really discussing the root of his anger.

shelby kesterke

1/6/2016 02:17:51 pm

During this situation I would talk to Chase and say I understand you are angry right now, but I think it would be best to calm down for a little bit and then we can talk about why you are so upset. Once Chase was able to share the reason behind him being so upset I would go and talk with Chase and the other students who were not allowing him to play basketball and see if they could come up with a solution to include everyone instead of excluding Chase and making him feel angry.

rebecca arnold

1/14/2016 02:18:29 pm

I would creat a safe space for him to go and cool down then I would then ask if he knows why he was in time out explains that his actions hurt others but let him know that is a good perrson

Justyna Galaz

1/15/2016 12:32:52 pm

I would gently guide Chase to a different area by himself and the next day he could apologize for the way he acted to the class. I would speak to his parents if it keeps happening.

Natalie Rapp

1/16/2016 07:18:53 pm

The first thing I would do is remove Chase from the other children, to a space where it is calming and away from other peer's glances. I would ask him if he could calm down so that we might talk about what happened. If he does not respond to my request right away I would let him be by himself for a few minutes to have some quite time to calm down alone. Before I walk away I would let him know that I would be back in a few minutes after he is calm. When he calms down I would sit and discuss what brought his outburst on and why it might not be appropriate to hurt others or himself when he is angry. After we discuss what happened and has calmed down, I would ask him if he would like to go back and join the other children or would rather do something on his own for the remainder of playtime. That way he can decide what would be best for himself.

anitha

1/18/2016 10:30:29 pm

I would separate chase from the situation and let him calm down to think about his actions. Once he was calm we would sit down and talk over the problem and discuss positive ways to behave and let him back in the group to try again.

David

1/20/2016 01:20:23 pm

I would seperate chase from the group and give him a safe space to cool off and talk to him when he is ready to talk and find out the true reason hes so upset

Micaela Carroll

1/21/2016 04:28:15 pm

I would seperate him from the rest of the group and give him time to cool off. Then I would talk to the other children about how they are making him feel, and why that is not okay.I would then go back to the first child and try to encourage him to use his words to express how he feels rather than screaming, and talk to the children together to work it out.

jennifer massengale

1/24/2016 12:14:10 pm

Chase needs to be removed from the other children for a few minutes to calm down the talk to him about why he was removed and even though he was frustrated it is not ok to treat other people that way

Sybil

1/25/2016 01:51:28 pm

1. Go near Chase, get down to his level, become a point of contact between him and where he wants to go/who he is angry with. Acknowledge and mirror his feelings -- they are legitimate!
2. Ask him to find a calm place to take some time for himself to relax and breathe.
3. Join him to talk about what has happened. Giving words to feelings is healing and de-escalating in itself, also discovering together the trigger point and warning signs so he can be more aware next time (did your fists clench? did you get hot? etc). Also asking him to check in with his body through feeling his toes or hands (what do they feel like?).
4. Check in with him before re-entering about whether he thinks he is ready and able to control his body. If not, maintaining quiet time is a great option! This will help him to know that what he needs is okay.

Annika

1/27/2016 12:44:43 pm

I would first make sure the other kids are away so they are not physically hurt and so that Chase can have an opportunity to calm down and the other kids could still be engaged in something besides staring at Chase or making him feel bad. I would talk to Chase calmly ask him to explain his feelings and offer solutions. I would offer several different options to Chase so that he knows he is taken care of, and that he matters, and his feelings are legitimate like the above comment says. Make it a learning opportunity for Chase so he knows not to act that way again and what he can do instead. The kids also need to know that it was wrong for them to exclude Chase.

cynthia smith

1/27/2016 04:00:23 pm

I would first make sure that there would be another staff person to watch the other kids on the play ground. I would approach the game beinging played and ask Chase to come over to the side with me. After a few minutes to cool down, ask him for details on his side of the story. Then tell him that yelling like that on the playground is not allowed but I do understand that he was angry. Then ask him if he is ready to try to join the group again. If so, walk over to the group with him and stay there close by for a while to make sure that he is accepted into the group again.

James

1/29/2016 06:58:51 am

I would bring Chase to a place away from other children so we can have a calm conversation of what took place to figure out together how to handle situations like that better and he can have a chance to recollect himself before joining the rest of the group again. After talking to chase I would talk to the other kids that were excluding him from the game to figure out what and why things took place on their end.

Gabriel A

1/29/2016 11:50:46 am

First thing I would do is separate him from the group, calm him down, & let him vent to me for awhile. I would ask what he would like to do & politely let him know that screaming is not how we handle a situation. Then I would go back to the group & tell everyone that inclusion is important & that it hurts not to be included.

Carly

1/31/2016 11:30:12 am

In this situation I would separate Chase from the game and give him a few minutes to calm down before I begin to talk to him. I would explain to him why his behavior was hurtful and give him other ideas about how to ask his peers to be included. If the behaviors persist we would need to work together with his parents in teaching him how to control his impulses

Molly B

1/31/2016 07:43:14 pm

The first thing to do is separate Chase from the situation. If he is angry and hysterical, she shouldn't be around other children. He needs to come inside and talk to an adult or sit quietly and think about why he is angry and what he should do next time he feels that way.

Andrea Myers

2/8/2016 12:13:03 pm

I would separate Chase from the group so the situation doesn't go any further. Its important to make sure he feels heard and make sure he knows we're trying to help him and we don't want him to feel angry but its okay that he's feeling some type of way about being excluded.

Alissa Wallace

2/8/2016 12:55:32 pm

First, I would separate Chase to prevent further altercations. Next, I would calmly talk to him and listen to what he has to say about the situation. After, I would reassure him that we are here to help and want to keep everyone safe. Finally, I would talk to him about what to do in the future and how we can prevent this from happening again.

Holly Rogers

2/8/2016 08:11:08 pm

I would approach Chase and ask quietly and calm to walk with me away from the group. We might walk or we might stand, but we would be at a distance from his peers. I would not expect direct eye contact because of the state his is in and because he is a boy and that is hard for them. I would then listen to his frustrations if he were ready to talk, brainstorm with him ways he could communicate with his peers to get what he wants, and ask him to devise the follow-up plan. Depending upon historical behaviors, I might ask him to go to the gym to exercise during his next recess so he is not around his classmates, communicate with parents to explain my concerns, suggest counseling to help him deal with his frustrations, and/or set structures such as participating in different activities during recess in place to keep everyone safe for a determined period of time.

Kay

2/9/2016 01:24:00 pm

I would find Chase a quite place to calm down. While he is doing that, I would ask the other children what happened, and remind them that we try to let everyone play, and that we don't hurt each others feelings. I would let them know that when Chase returns, I expect them to let him in join in the game.

Sarah Still

2/13/2016 11:25:48 am

I would pull Chase aside and tell him that although he is angry for not being a part of the game, yelling is an inappropriate way of handling the situation. If he is too angry to listen to me I would take him to another teacher who could help me calm him down and tell him again what he should do. I would then help bring him into the game once he is calm and keep a close eye on him and the others as the game progresses.

Michael Chapman

2/14/2016 08:51:26 am

I suggest going over to him and talk to him and try to calm him down and tell him to take deep breathes then i would tell him to go do something else for a few minutes until he unwinds a little bit.

Rachel

2/18/2016 02:10:53 pm

I would put Chase aside and try to keep him clam down.

Brandi

2/18/2016 02:37:27 pm

1st help him calm down so he can explain to you what happened and why is he so upset. Then help him solve the problem

Katharina Gees

2/23/2016 11:10:42 am

I will first separate him from the group under a guise that I need help with something and that he's the best person for the job. The when we're doing the said job he will settle down. Once he is more calm I will talk to him about the situation and try to offer guidance through a personal story. I will try to prevent this situation from occurring again by helping to set up the basketball game next time and making sure everyone is included.

Kammi

2/25/2016 07:09:24 pm

I would pull him to the side and ensure he is in a safe place for him and away from his peers. I would talk to him about verbalizing his emotions in a productive manner. I would ask him if he would want to play with someone who was yelling- offer him perspective.

Then join him in finding an appropriate way to ask to be included in the activity.

Henry Moen

2/27/2016 09:59:19 pm

I ask him to come talk with me away from the other children. I offer him other things to do and we talk about fairness and about the other kids perspective and how to properly deal with emotions. I would also find out why he was being excluded, and if it was for a good reason. If not then the other kids would also have a talking to.

Marc

2/28/2016 08:18:38 am

Take him out of the game for a while, sit down or take a walk. Tell him to calm down and when he is ready to talk. Ask chase if this behaviors where ok. Come up with a goal or a plan for when he has outbursts. Then when chase is ready to join the game, let him play. And stand close by to help when he has those behavior again.

Nohelani Quigtar

2/28/2016 11:28:40 pm

I would take Chase out of the game and give him a minute to calm down. I would then have a one-on-one conversation with him, asking him if him yelling was okay and ask him why he is so upset. Then I would come up with a plan to deal with his emotions and explain fairness and what being a good sport means.

Morgan

2/29/2016 11:15:13 am

separating chase from the issue making him angry is my first step, i would take him to a place were we can sit calmly and discuss. i would ask him what is making him feel so angry, hurt, sad. then i would help him find a way to overcome those feelings, but also make it clear that yelling is not an acceptable way of expressing them. i would give him options for the future and make sure that the other children include him in the game when he is returned.

Andrew

3/4/2016 05:11:36 pm

If he is unable to work out the problem with the others with the help of our moderation, ask him to come aside and attempt to understand what happened and why he feels that way. If there was an injustice, let Chase know you'll talk with the other kids. If they're willing to let him play, go for that option. But rather than force him into the game, try to get him interested in another game. Explain to the children about the important of including others.

Mariah

3/8/2016 10:40:06 pm

I would ask Chase to come talk to me (away from the group) about why he is upset. If he is still yelling and angry, I would have him sit in silence until he calms down. When humans are angry, the reasoning part in our brain can shut off, making us more upset. Because of this, we cannot explain our logic and thinking. So it is good to have the children sit in silence when they are very upset and have them start talking after they calm down. Then, once he was able to explain why he is upset, I would take action to fix the problem.

katie

3/10/2016 12:18:24 pm

I would removed Chase from the situation by asking him to come talk to me. If he is unwilling to talk to me, I would have him sit in a more secluded area (while still monitoring him) so he could process the situation. Once Chase has calmed down, I would talk to him about how his behaviors were affecting those around him and some better ways to react next time he becomes upset.

Nicole Littleton

3/13/2016 03:48:55 am

I would try to move Chase away from the situation, directing him to an adult either at another part of the outdoor space or an adult inside. Once he has calmed down, the adult should guide him through what just happened, his feelings, and what he should try to do next time.

Tabitha

3/14/2016 09:56:35 am

I would remove Trey, ask to sit down till he was calm and once he was ready to talk about things that happened. Just provide a listening ear.

Sara McColloch

3/14/2016 10:41:29 am

I would pull Chase aside and talk to him and try to calm him down. I'd probably keep him by my side and talk him through whatever upset him and try to help him find coping mechanisms that will help him in situations such as the basketball one.

Audrey MEZIL

3/18/2016 05:49:41 pm

First I would try to calmly ask Chase to stay on a place separate from the rest of the group in order he can be safe and the other can be safe too.
I would stay very calm and speak in a low voice but firmly (never yelling) and I will say him "I am listening to you, take a deep breath and explain me what is the issue in order I can help you". And I will wait he calm down (still looking sometimes at the other students to be sure they are safe). Usually it is enought to calm down the kid.

Once he will explain, I will say I understand what he is saying. I take it in consideration, I will see how to fix the problem but he has to stay calm for a little bit because this behavior is not acceptable.
A little bit later, I will see with him which sort of acceptable behavior he should have used to have his problem fixed instead of this misbehavior

Brianna Kanyid

3/19/2016 06:51:03 pm

1. I would walk calmly over to Chase. I would ask him to please walk away from the situation.
2. If he refuses to walk away, I would ask him to please leave again. If he doesn't leave, I would tell the other players that the basketball game is closed right now and ask them to leave.
3. After Chase is isolated from the problem. I would ask him to take a deep breath and to calm down.
4. I would acknowledge his anger by saying things like, I can see that you are hurt and very angry.
5. I would ask ask him to come and get me when he is feeling calm enough to talk.
6. When he is calm I would ask him about the situation, how it made him feel, what he feel like they did wrong, what he felt he did wrong, how he wants to be treated, etc.
7. Then I would call the other players over and have Chase explain how he felt. I would have him apologize for his behavior.
8. I would have the other players apologize for their behavior.
9. I would have them resume the game with Chase included.

Jaclyn Tabone

3/20/2016 09:06:51 pm

Tell him I am very sorry you were left out, would you like to take a break to talk to me? Then I would wait until he calms down and tell him it is not nice to yell at others next time he should use a softer voice and tell the others that it hurts his feelings. I would then ask for the other students to include him.

Nathan Johnson

3/21/2016 11:45:40 am

talk to him and the other kids together, that both of their behaviours are unacceptable

Melissa

3/21/2016 07:35:43 pm

I would take him to an area a distance away from the group and tell him to sit and try calm himself and we will talk after he is calm. After he calmed down I would ask him ways he could have responded to the situation better.

Mischelle Johnson

3/22/2016 12:02:52 pm

Send the other children off and give the child space on his own for a little. Once he is ready to talk, let him know you are sorry he is hurt. If you need to, remind him to breathe and talk out whatever he is feeling. Then give him guidance on a better way to handle his problem next time- talk about conflict resolution and reassure the child that those emotions happen to all of us- but it is how we choose to handle them that can solve the problem on it's own.

Brittany Nielsen

3/22/2016 07:38:50 pm

To deal with this situation, I would get down to Chase's eye level and try to get him to calmly tell me why he is upset. If he continues to be hysterical, the best way to proceed is to remove him from the group to a quiet room until he is calm enough to talk. We would have a discussion about how he felt about the situation and what a more positive way to react would be. Since Chase has an impulse problem, I would document the incident in his file and call his parents to talk about what the underlying issue may be. It's possible it could either be a problem at home or even a mental problem which may need medical evaluation.

Aimee

3/27/2016 04:35:14 pm

First, I would try to separate Chase from the rest of the group and try to get him to calm down. Once he is calm, I would try to talk to him about what happened before he was excluded. If it sounds like they decided to exclude him for no good reason I would let him know that I would talk to the other kids after we were done talking but also talk to him about other things he could do to solve the problem (like telling a teacher) instead of just getting mad and yelling. If it sounds like they excluded him because of something he did or said I might talk to him about why they might not like what he did and what he could do instead.

Linda Mae Kristofik

3/29/2016 04:03:32 pm

I would first make sure there is someone to attend to the other children and tell the other students to continue with the game. I would calmly go to Chase and direct him away from the group to a quiet and out of attention getting proximity. I would acknowledge that he is upset and let him know I will talk to him when he calms down. I will either ask him or access if he can calm down alone as I do not want him to become more disruptive. I will remain neutral or give little attention until he is calm and ready to discuss the behavior. Once calm I can find out what caused the outburst and direct him to ways he can express what is going on and hopefully be able to address the initial issue that caused him to sit out of the game.

StephanieL

4/1/2016 12:20:55 pm

I would call Chase to the side and have him take deep breaths to calm down. Removing him from the situation will hopefully allow him to begin to calm down. I would calmly talk with him and discuss why he is upset and why his reaction is inappropriate. Once he is calm I would ask the children to allow him to join or redirect him to another activity with another group of children that would also be enjoyable for him.

RAFFAELA GENZALE

4/6/2016 10:01:32 pm

Have him move away from the other children to be able to gain some self control. Remind him that screaming is not helping him and to use his words. Once he has calmed down, have him try to explain why he is hysterical. Let him know that if he needs more time to calm himself down, that he take take whatever time he needs to do so. Once he is calm, talk with the group of children to allow hi to rejoin their play.

Katrina Tarpy

4/13/2016 12:57:32 pm

Chase is not yet able to control his impulses. Remove him from the situation and allow him some time to calm down independently. I would let Chase know that he can come to talk to me when he feels calmer and can communicate appropriately. Once the dialogue begins the situation can be talked about and resolved. I would also discuss strategies with Chase, that he can use to control his impulses and help him cope with irrational emotions. Practicing calming exercises and breathing strategies would benefit him.

Jeannette Williams

4/14/2016 11:02:51 am

first create a safe space for him to go.
I would then have a one-on-one conversation with him, asking him if him yelling was okay and ask him why he is so upset. and would find a plan for him

Nayelika link

4/14/2016 03:54:12 pm

gabrielle

4/22/2016 03:32:55 pm

I would ask him to take a deep breath and calm down before explaining to me what is going on. Once he was calm I would try to get him to see if there was a way of resolving the issue by either playing another game or talking to the kids who were excluding him and asking to join in.

Dexter Allenlee Registe

4/26/2016 03:23:13 pm

I would take him away from the group/game and see what the problem is and have him give me different ways he could have handled it. Also let him know if something likes this happens again what should he do?

Drew

5/3/2016 01:40:06 pm

The first thing I would do is immediately remove Chase from the situation. I would take him to a quiet, isolated place where he can calm down. When he is ready to talk I would sit with him and have him explain to me why and how he was frustrated and depending on the specifics, have him come up with different ways, along with me, of how he can handle it differently today and in future similar circumstances.

Emily DuBois

5/5/2016 10:50:57 am

First, I would bring chase away from the scene and wait until he calms down slightly so I could get a word in. Secondly, I would ask him questions and guiding him through the situation to thoroughly explain what happened to get him to this point. Finally, I would talk him through the situation and let him know that he is loved and cared for, and make sure that he apologizes to whoever he wronged.

Kari

5/6/2016 11:15:59 am

First you need to hear and agree with his frustration. Then find different ways to channel it. Either he will cheer and play the next game or he can find another activity. Allow him to make that choice.

Kristina

5/10/2016 10:18:12 am

I would remove him from the group, calm him down and talk to him about the situation.

Daniel Allen

5/10/2016 05:04:49 pm

I would get him away from the group using calm but firm suggestion. Once away from the rest of the group I would calm him down and listen to what he was frustrated about. I would explain to him how important it is to remain calm when he's angry. I would let him go rejoin the game after he calmed down and then repeat the process with key students who were involved. I would explain to them how Chase felt but not approve his actions. After this I would bring them together to apologize, not letting them rehash the event or point blame.

Myell Mergaert

5/21/2016 07:48:37 pm

I would take him aside and talk to him to see what is going on. Then attempt to reintegrate him into the game.

Christopher Williams

5/31/2016 11:33:24 am

I would move Chase away from the situation and ask him to come talk in a quiet place so we can discuss why he got so mad and how to become aware of his feeling of anger when it arrives. This will help him identify it the next time it arises and help in his ability to not let it govern how he acts.

Katheryn Leyde

6/2/2016 10:00:52 am

I would have him take a couple of minutes away from the group to cool down. I would then discuss what happened with him, so that he can think about his reaction. This would make him more aware of it so it doesn't happen again.

Maddi

6/7/2016 02:39:59 pm

I would separate Chase from the other students and help him calm down. Once calm, I would discuss with Chase what happened to make him feel so angry. After we talked, I would discuss with Chase how we might handle this same situation differently next time- how can he tell his peers he feels excluded without becoming angry? I would have Chase come up with ideas of how he could talk to his friends and positively express his feelings.

Christina Huskey

6/10/2016 01:51:41 pm

I would make sure that the boy is put into another room from any other children. I would want this child to calm down before we actually talk to him. once he calms down them I would ask him what triggered his anger. one I got down the the root then I would figure out another solution to help make sure that it dose not happen next time.

Leticia Gutierrez

6/10/2016 11:53:59 pm

Sashia Ramirez-Trujillo

6/14/2016 12:40:26 am

1. I will talk to him about his behavior.
2. I will ask him to sit in other place so he can calm down and rest. I will do it in a good way.
3. I will talk to the other students to know why he was screaming and make them understand that he didn't have a good day.
4. I will go back when he calms and talk to him and why is important to respect others

manroop buttar

6/15/2016 08:47:54 pm

Remove him from the group so he can calm down and ask him to tell me the problem then let him know the appropriate way to handle a situation and when he is calm let him rejoin the game

Mia Naficy

6/23/2016 02:59:57 am

I would ask Chase calmly to come with me and if he refuses or ignores me, I would gently put a loving hand on his back so he knows I care and squat down to his level and ask him calmly and sweetly to come with me, I know he is very upset and I would like to talk with him about it. When he comes with me, I would ask him if he is ready to talk about it. If not, I would give him a few minutes to calm down. When he is ready, I would ask him why he is feeling so frustrated. I would then respond depending on what he said in a way that is calm and supportive.

Manolita

6/25/2016 10:58:06 am

Chase has to be isolated from the rest of the children, either by calling him to calm down in an area away from the rest, or taking the others away if he refused to do so. A teacher should wait calmly until Chase quieted down before talking to him. Begin with empathy and listen actively to what he has to say. Explain to him or remind him that there are certain behaviors that must be followed when working or playing with friends. Let Chase join the group when it is apparent that he has understood fully what good social behavior means. Explain to the group of children that Chase is ready to play the game according to rules. Observe the children at play for a while until it is apparent that there is harmony among the players. In difficult situation, I will call on the school's guidance counselor or administrator to help me.

Kimme

7/5/2016 12:43:22 pm

First I would remove him from the situation and encourage him to calm down so we can resolve the problem. After he is calmed down make sure to be empathetic when listing to what happened, and brainstorm with him solutions. Remind chase that acting aggressively wont lead to good outcomes and when he is completely calmed down have him join in with the game. Explain to the children that excluding could hurt them so they shouldn't exclude people, do what you would like to be done.

Olivia Castillo

7/5/2016 10:13:47 pm

I would first tell the other children to continue their game else where while i talk to Chase. I would then calm Chase down and ask him to tell me what happened. i would then tell the other children that Chase can play with them and to find a role for him in the game.

Venise Williams

7/8/2016 06:59:01 pm

Stop the game until chase has been pulled to the side. have a conversation with Chase and let him know a better way to respond. I tell them that good sportsmanship is about being a good winner and looser so we do not have to take a break from the fun

Emily Enright

7/12/2016 11:22:29 pm

First, I would ensure Chase's safety by pulling him aside. I would try to calm him down by coming down to his level, keeping a calm voice, and asking him to explain how he feels. Once he calms down I would ask him how he thinks he could handle the problem differently, and see what solutions he comes up with. I would encourage him and the other group of children to play fairly and nicely with one and other. I would then try to make the basketball game into a group game like horse or something and play with the kids to encourage positive fun. I would explain that we all need to work as a team to make sure everyone gets along. I would monitor Chase for any more outbursts, and speak with my supervisors and his parents if the behavior continued.

Jeremy Tagliaferre

7/17/2016 01:18:13 pm

First I go over and talk to Chase. I say something like, "Hey Chase what is going on?" He will probably tell me what he is upset about in a way that only makes him more upset. So hopefully I can ask him to sit down and tell me more. I will ask him questions like, did you ask them to let you play the game? And, what did they say? What did you say back? I will actively listen to him and get his side of the story. Since it seems like he is really upset, I will talk to the group while he continues to sit out.

Chances are that the group doesn't want him to play because he often acts out, doesn't follow the rules, and or otherwise sucks the fun out of the game. I will ask the group to come up with some ways to redirect him? And ask if he agrees to follow all the rules and otherwise cooperate with the group, will they let him play.

With this new information about why the other kids don't want him to play, I will sit back down with Chase and talk to him about his behavior and come up with strategies to help him play with the group successfully. Hopefully we will land on some that do not involve him yelling hysterically at the group next time. We will need a strategy for how he will leave the game too, just in case things don't work out.

Judith Regalado

7/25/2016 10:59:34 pm

The first thing that I would do is remove chase from the other children. That way he does not hurt himself or others around him. The next thing I would do is talk to him. Ask him what's wrong, why is he feeling this way, etc. Then chase and I can come up with a solution to help him play with the group of children in a calm matter.

Carly Froneberger

7/31/2016 08:14:25 pm

If I was in this situation I would pull Chase to the side and explain to him in calm manner that his behavior is not the most appropriate and he could express his feelings in a different way. I would also have him think about his actions and take a few moments to calm himself. Then I would talk to him and ask him if he has anything else going on and tell him he can always come to me if he feels angry or frustrated.

Anne Pyle

8/14/2016 09:08:02 pm

I would separate Chase from the other kids and ask him what happened. I would listen to his point of view and try to understand the bigger picture as to why exactly they are excluding Chase. I would give him time to calm down by himself, while he was thinking about his actions I would talk to the group about our policy on excluding. Then, I would have Chase ask again politely to join the game or have one of the students from the group go ask Chase to join. And if they really refuse I would start a new game with Chase myself.

Miesha

8/29/2016 01:46:25 pm

I would take Chase aside and try to calm him down, once Chase is calmed down i would find a quiet activity that he can do by himself such as coloring or reading a book. once he is calmed down i would try to give him another chance to play with the other kids

Margaret

8/29/2016 05:10:24 pm

typically if the kid is hysterical otehr kids will chime in to tell me what is happening and are wittnesses to how the kid asked to play and why he was excluded. I would first have the hysterical kid stand by me until he is calm and tell me what happened in front of the group that is excluding him. Then ask the group why they did what they did. If it is because the asking-child was being mean or changing the rules I would explain to the child a polite way to ask to play and the importance of agreeing to the rules in order to play. If it is because he doesn't know how to play or is bad at playing, I would explain to the group the importance of teamwork and individual skill building and including others. If no resolution can be reached organize a new game that includes everyone.

Alexander

8/29/2016 08:29:43 pm

It is important to remove chase from the situation, and perhaps take him to the side or into the classroom to have a private conversation so that we can work out his anger. Chase obviously has difficulty respecting other peoples space and wishes, especially when those exclude him. It would be important to suggest that chase can find other things to do, or other children to play with, and to remind him that his actions might hurt his friends and fellow students. As always, empathy is the key to dealing with this child.

Angela Brun

8/31/2016 02:17:19 pm

I would pull him aside and talk to him one on one. Hearing him, hearing his side of story, and then letting him calm down and get control over himself. Then help him integrate back into the game or assist him on finding him another game to play. Have empathy for Chase, let him know that you're not mad at him or on the attack. You are there to help him and help him fix the situation.

Katarina Allen

9/4/2016 03:04:41 pm

I would ask him to come sit by me and I would have a basketball in my hands making him feel more comfortable wanting to sit with me. I would ask him why he got excluded and how that made him feel. Then I would ask him why he needed to yell and how he thought the other kids might feel about him yelling at them. What would he feel if someone were to yell at him that way? This will more than likely calm him down because we are having a conversation and not me talking at him, I'm talking with him.

Kate Taylor

9/5/2016 10:46:44 am

I would first direct him to a safe place in which he is away from the other children and where I can monitor his behavior. Once he has cooled down I would go over to him and in an open manner ask him if he would share why he's upset with me. I'd listen and let him explain until he is done and tell him that I understand he is frustrated but there are other ways we can handle this situation. I'd then have him explain his feelings to the group if he is still angry and then make sure that the group is including him in the game.

Konstantin Yatsuk

9/7/2016 01:36:05 pm

Either myself or another instructor would go to a secluded location (or just farther away from the game, just so he doesn't hurt anyone else) and then sit him down and wait for him to calm down, then ask him the reason for why he is hysterical, and explain to him the reason for his sitting out of the game (if the sit-out was caused by instructors). Then ask him if he is ready to rejoin everyone else, and eventually join the rest of the group.

Alissa Gutierrez

9/14/2016 11:07:25 am

I would take him to the side, have him sit down, lead/kneel down to his level right in front of him, and ask him what is wrong. If he explains himself and his reason is okay, I would tell him to either play nicely or play something else. If his reason is not okay, I would have him sit with me for a few minutes to think about what he did, have him reexplain himself again, and let him play nicely, but let him know that if he does that again, he will not be rejoining.

McCanna

9/20/2016 12:29:57 pm

I would create a safe place and safe feeling with me away from the area. I would be very calm and have welcoming energy. I would give Chase time to cool down. After he has cooled down i would let him hold a basketball and ask him what happened and why he got excluded. All wail staying positive. If needed the other kids could be talked to separately. I would then ask if he wanted to play basketball with me and i would ask other kids if they would like to join.

Quincy Henry

9/20/2016 02:15:57 pm

The thing to keep in mind in this situation is that Chase has impulse control issues. Without explicitly knowing if Chase's behavior is the result of ADD/ADHD or some other condition the key here is exhibiting patience with Chase and getting information as to what it is Chase wants to do. By asking him questions and hopefully getting answers, we can better assess how to redirect his energy.

Even though he was excluded from the basketball game, there may be a way to still get him involved, such as assigning him and myself or another student to keeping score which not only requires his attention but his energy to keep up with the flow of the game. If Chase needs to engage in a more physically demanding activity then it may be necessary to identify an activity where he can fully take part.

Maleeha Choudhry

9/22/2016 12:46:00 am

I would walk him to one side, tell him to look at me and hold his hands so that we can take deep breathes, I would then give him some water and let him be alone until he is ready to be friendly, I would also talk to him about behavior.

Chloe

9/24/2016 12:37:36 pm

First, I will talk to him to get him to calm down--usually I do this by saying "I need you to talk, when you shout, I cannot understand you and then I can't help you." Or something similar. I won't shout, just say it calmly.
Then I would move him slightly away from the game, so as to not attract a crowd of staring children and to give Chase some space to calm down and explain what happened.
If he does calm down and after he has told me the sequence of events, I check in with him about his feelings. If I feel like it's been a misunderstanding (the children who are playing basketball didn't realize that Chase wanted to play or that they would let him join in the next game) I would explain that to Chase so that he understood. If it isn't a misunderstanding and the basketball group really didn't want Chase to play (they are playing one game, and they need even teams), I would give Chase suggestions for other activities or for him to start a new game of basketball. Usually I check in with the group to see if they would still be willing to let Chase play, as that would be the kindest thing to do, and usually after they think about it, they accept the previously excluded child.

Sarah

9/26/2016 09:47:39 am

I would first talk to Chase separately. I would encourage him to be calm, and take all the time he needs to settle himself, and assure him that I would listen to all he had to say when he was ready. When I have listened to him and figured out what happened, I would ask him how it made him feel, and what he thinks would have been a better way to handle the situation. I would then bring him to the group who excluded him and explain to them the reason why excluding him was the wrong choice. Lastly, I would give Chase the option of rejoining the group, or picking another group or activity.

Britt

9/29/2016 08:05:52 pm

I would ask him to sit with me and ask him why I pulled him away from other children.

Yarely

9/29/2016 10:19:10 pm

I would have Chase to the side where we can talk. Ask him if that the way we handle things. Let him know that when he does that we hurt our friends feelings. Talk to the other children about sharing. And how everyone should be able to play.

Krystal Hwang

10/2/2016 01:16:41 am

I would put the child out and tell him to go inside so he can take a break and calm himself down like a time out. Then try to speak to him and listen to what his saying why his angry and why he felt upset when he was playing the game. Then set a rule for all children's that are playing outside so there is a rule he can go by and think its fair.Let other staffs know thats this situation happened today and discuss about talking to the kids parents what happened outside today. And than have a meeting with other staff members so we all can discuss and find a solution to help him for his behavior.

Kate Sheldon

10/3/2016 11:32:05 am

I would first separate Chase. If he's willing, I would have him talk to me to explain what is going on.
If he refused, I would have him sit out until he was ready to discuss what went wrong. If need be, maybe have him run some laps to blow off some steam.

Lexi

10/4/2016 11:43:44 am

I would pull him aside and away from his classmates to have a short talk. Discuss why he is acting this way and explain how his actions could hurt others. I would want him to be fully calmed down before he can join the group again.

kylee

10/10/2016 08:30:25 pm

I would ask him to calm down then ask the team nicely if he could join in

Kristopher McLendon

10/11/2016 12:57:54 pm

I would pull him away from the activity and discuss the expectations and that his behavior doesnt warrant being able to play. Once calm I would talk to the other kids about inclusion.

Kiana Wastradowski

10/16/2016 11:03:34 pm

I would separate him from the group and ask another adult to supervise while I sit next to him as he calms down, I would remain calm throughout the entire encounter and ask him to calm down, if he persists I would tell him he can go back in the game if he talks to me first and proceed from there. I will also offer to play with him. We will have a group talk about inclusion.

Alicia

10/17/2016 10:04:06 am

I would first ask him to come take a walk with me. Then I would go sit somewhere where we can sit quietly while he calmed down. I would let him know that we can talk when he is calm and ready. Once he was ready, I would let him know that I understand that he is angry, but it's not okay to yell at the others, no matter what they do. Then I would tell him anytime he feels like he is going to get upset try to just walk away or maybe ask a staff if you feel like you need help solving a problem. Then I would take him back over to the boys to try to solve the issues that were going on. If it continued to be an issue, then I would let my coordinator take the next steps.

diana

10/17/2016 08:29:56 pm

explain to him the rules of the game and try to make him understand why that happened

Jocelyn Ramirez

10/18/2016 01:37:07 pm

I would talk Chase into sitting out for a little while and wait until he is ready to talk. Sometimes it can take awhile for a child to calm down so I'll give him the time he needs. Once he is calm to talk, I will let him know that i noticed that he was upset, and I'll ask him what made him feel that way. I'll explain that there are other activities to play while he waits to play basketball, and I would try to talk to the other kids and make sure to tell them that they should try to take turns and not exclude kids that want to play with them.

lacie

10/20/2016 01:25:58 pm

i would say he needs to go in a quiet area to calm down, once he is calm then talk to him and ask what the problem was. then talk to other students to try and resolve the problem

Aliyah Martin

10/26/2016 12:16:02 pm

I would ask Chase why he is not thinking before he acts or speaks. Saying or doing mean things is an inappropriate behavior and is harmful to our friends here at our center. I would give him time to settle down and when he thinks he is ready to genuinely apologize for his behavior he can re join the group/ activity. I would also assure the other children that Chase will no longer display that type of behavior, and that no one should ever even if they they think they are being treated unfairly. We should always think things through and talk it out before coming to our own conclusions and ways of solving it.

nicole wilson

10/31/2016 06:40:21 pm

i would separate chase from the other kids, give him a few minutes to calm down then i would get to his level and calmly talk to him about the situation and explain why what he did wasnt right to do

Amber

11/15/2016 03:09:31 pm

First, I would remove him from the situation. I would tell him that I can tell that he is angry, but it is not okay to yell, and that we would take some time to cool down and then talk about what we would do instead. I would then accompany him back to the group to let him gradually readjust.

Sarah Garcia

11/18/2016 12:31:18 pm

The first thing to do is separate the children. Chase needs to be able to sit and cool off away from the other children, After he is in a calm enough state, talk to him about his feelings. Let him know his emotions are validated, but being abusive to others is not an appropriate thing to do at our site. After we have talked about it, I would walk him back to his game and give him the opportunity to readjust.

Laura Murillo

11/29/2016 12:28:22 am

Given that Chase is a third grade student I would say he is old enough to be guided through conflict resolution. I would remove Chase from the immediate situation and tell him he needs to calm and control his body. Once he is calm and collected I would proceed to hear out his side of the story and then the other's students side of the story. I would them give them tell them a better way to communicate and react in situations like this and then give them choices to resolve the conflict between themselves with my guidance.

Esperanza Lira

11/30/2016 09:39:23 am

If we are within count, I would walk chase to another room to speak to him and let him cool down. If he cooperates, come up with a plan to fix the problem that he might be having. If he still isn't cooperating, let him know you will be calling mom or dad and giving him a write up if he continues or that he could choose to cooperate to find a solution together.

Jennifer Hargrove

12/1/2016 10:04:02 am

I would take Chase away from the other kids. Once he is able to communicate in a calm manner, I would get his side of the story. I would explain to him that it is ok to get upset and angry, and at some point in life, everyone learns how to handle how they feel and what they do when they get upset. Just like how everyone learns to read or learns subtraction. Some of the ways people handle getting upset is they count to ten, other's take three deep breaths, or you could even flex all your muscles at once and then relax them. I would encourage him to try one of those techniques before we go back to the group. When we got back to the group, I would ask Chase to apologize to the group for his actions and ask if he could join the game.

Juan Flores

12/4/2016 03:58:39 pm

I would ask Chase to remove himself from the group so he can take a breather. I would then have a chat with the group on the importance of inclusion and how excluding others is not appropriate behavior and can make someone upset. I would then have a chat with Chase and allow him to define his anger and allow him to come up with other ways of expressing his anger.

Marisol Diaz

12/9/2016 12:58:32 pm

i would go up to him and talk calmly. i would take him aside from all the children and have him explain himself to me have him talk. then i would explain what should be done in that case and tell him that once he is calmed down and ready he can get in the game.

Marisol Diaz

12/9/2016 12:59:41 pm

i would take him aside from all the children and have him explain himself to me have him talk. talk to him calmly. then i would explain what should be done in that case and tell him that once he is calmed down and ready he can get in the game.

Karla Palomino

12/20/2016 11:11:16 am

The first thing I would do is move him away from the situation. Allow him to cool off a little then have a talk with him. Allow him to explain himself first and then respond calmly and explain why what he did was not okay and what should be done next time around in a situation like this one. I would have him calm down completely before he goes of to play again. And I would inform the parents of the situation.

Nakayla

12/30/2016 08:53:50 pm

Direct chase away from the other children and explain to him why his outburst was not okay. Let him have some alone time to cool down and think about his actions. when he is ready he may rejoin the game

Jessica pattison

1/6/2017 06:38:45 pm

I would separate chase from the other children. And sit him down to talk about why he is so angry. Once he is calm I would acknowledge his feeling of anger and explain to him how he should react without getting hysterical. If this continued to be an issue I would communicate with parents about maybe getting him some one on one counseling to help with his impulses.

Thomas

1/14/2017 09:17:36 pm

I would remove Chase from the situation, and away from the other children. I would give him a few minutes alone, supervised, but alone to gather his own thoughts and begin to calm down on his own. I would then sit down with him and discuss what happen, and what had him so upset. I would discuss with him ways to avoid this from happening again, and suggest different activities for him to partake in.

nishat Iqbal

1/16/2017 02:05:04 pm

I would separate him from the group and ask him politely the more he screams the more time is going to be added , when he is calm down I will ask him why I have to separate him and next time how he is going to handle the situation better.

Barbara.Edrington

1/16/2017 02:07:20 pm

I would remove the child away from the situation before it gets physical then have the child to walk with me to cool down and tell him whenever he is ready to talk about whatever happened, and also speak with the other children to get their side of the story also and have consequences if necessary!!

Rachel Simmons

1/22/2017 08:48:16 pm

The first thing I would do is pull Chase away from the other children. Take the time to have him sit down and breathe for a minute then proceed to talk to him politely and let him know that their is no need for him to scream at everyone else around him. I would have him acknowledge me and ask him what he will do the next time he is in that situation, I would also talk to the other students and listen to their side of the story as well and emphasize that excluding is not okay and that everyone should be included fairly if they want to play.

Leslie

1/25/2017 11:56:29 pm

I would ask another staff member to take over watching the group of children involved in the game while I attempt to help calm Chase's behavior. I would walk him to a different area to give him time to calm down, console him at his eye level, and redirect him. I would ask how he felt, why he reacted the way he did, and see if we could think of ways to have handled the situation better, such as discussing it with his peers. Once it seems that Chase is ready to talk to his peers about his feelings, I would have everyone come together to discuss the matter, especially focusing on how excluding someone is unacceptable and to invite everyone into the game.

Kaile

2/9/2017 08:34:17 pm

I will take him aside and ask him why he is so upset. And listen to his response, and talk him through options for what to do in this situation, which would be creating something he can do instead of yelling like taking 5 deep breaths. I would remove hi from the kids who are excluding him and talk to those kids about putting people down and not to exclude people

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